using your own "ruler" to measure other's recovery
I am not ashamed to say that I feel and feel deeply an incredible amount of shame and post it here. I will not apologize for posting what I am feeling---SHAME.I was warned of this once by a women...
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Dear Rice, I echo your thoughts. I don't know why survivors would do this to each other.Be well...Believer4Dick Regan
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I think of shame as a hot potato- so painful to hold you want to throw it to the next person so you can be rid of it. But why not just throw the damn thing in the garbage where it belongs, so it can't...
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'Helping' is a complex thing.The survivor may not be out to 'shame' the other survivor.He or she may be trying to share their own success, andthings that worked for them. They may or may not do...
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This is a really good strand, I think, with very thoughtful posts. I think it also looks at why communication breaks down sometimes, on a public survivor boards.I remember being told, as a part of...
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Quote:or usually in an izod golf shirt, blue or greenNow that you mention it...what was up with that, anyway?
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Rice, Janet, Greg, and Dick,Very thoughtful posts - all of them.Rice I am very sorry for the shame that you're experiencing. It's really an awful and so painful emotion. As far as measuring anyone's...
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Everyone that posted has some good things to say. Thank you to Dick as well.I end here for awhile.I am finishing up some more details with the diocese. I am headed back into the hospital. It seems...
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One thing that I've been "shamed" for by other survivors is not being MORE public about what happened to me. I think that means my decisions to not be in the newspaper or not being at press...
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Kelly,I'm glad you're going to have a safe place to work on this stuff. I don't think you'll be offended if I tell you I'll pray for you- I hope not anyway. If so, please disregard it.Take...
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Kelly,What a generous, kind and honest post.And what a brave decision you've made about the hospital. I know others who have done in-patient treatment and for them it was a tremendously difficult but...
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Hi Linda,I'm sorry that you have been shamed for anything. as Kelly said, "We each have our own path." The big thing, I think, is to never again be coerced into doing anything we don't feel...
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Hi Thaw - For me, it has also been like when a dear friend dies. A grieving process. I think that I still mourn a little about what I've been through with the perp and with the church. I mourn a...
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Hi Janet - Adjusting to a new normal -- wow. That is a great way to put it. Thanks for adding your insights to the mix. In solidarity, Linda6565
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